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Are You Stressed This Thanksgiving? Make the 10/90 Rule Work for You

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Take a quick peek at the news and you’ll be reminded that this world is a scary, uncertain place. Crisis abounds, here and abroad, and we don’t know what will happen next.

It seems like nothing but bad news, all the time. But is it true? Much of it, certainly. Yet that’s only part of the story. If you dig around the web a while, you’ll also find stories of hope and encouragement, of people going the extra mile for their fellow man.

It comes down to what marketing folks call “spin.” It’s about perspective. Emphasis. Where the spotlight gets focused.

I think we can use spin, too. In a positive way.

Well-known speaker Charles Swindoll said, “Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it.”

Are there horrible, evil things happening in this world, maybe in your own life and family? No question. There are times when life is nothing but hard and it takes everything we have just to get out of bed.

Even then, we decide how we will react.

If you feel like you’re drowning this Thanksgiving, take a moment to apply the 10/90 rule. Make a list of the things you are thankful for, the good and wonderful gifts in your life—even if it takes some serious digging to find them.

There have been seasons in my life where getting through one day without sobbing was reason to rejoice. Start small, but learn to look for the good.

Doing this won’t make the bad disappear, of course, but it will help change your mental spin. And that will make a big difference.

I am so thankful for my faith, my family and my friends—all of you included. Thank you for taking time out of your busy lives to read my blog. You have brought such blessing and encouragement to me.

Make fabulous memories this weekend. Give hugs with abandon.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving, everyone!

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  1. Maddy says:

    I love Thanksgiving and I prefer it to Christmas, precisely because it’s an occasional to celebrate without all the stress. One day in the future I’d like to take my whole family to a soup kitchen on Thanksgiving so that we can really ‘give back’ and although I know that’s not going to happen any time soon, just thinking of spending the day there reminds me of how much we have to be grateful for.

    • Connie Mann says:

      What a great plan–and great perspective, Maddy! I hope you have a wonderful, stress-free Thanksgiving–and that your plan to corral the family for a soup kitchen Thanksgiving becomes reality very soon!

  2. Diane O'Key says:

    Lovely, inspiring thoughts. And so true! We are blessed each day with “small, ordinary” things…which are priceless. Thanks so much for reminding of of that. Blessings and warm thoughts to all of you this Thanksgiving. Let’s value and hug–literally and virtually–all those we love and appreciate.
    Diane
    CHERISH THE KNIGHT

  3. thank you for reminding me to readjust my perspective when things get tough. I know that grateful people are happier people overall, and a world full of happy people would be much nicer to live in.

    I think it may also have been Chuck Swindoll who said: The only thing you have control over is your attitude.

    Make mine an attitude of gratitude this Thanksgiving.

  4. Lisa Rayns says:

    Happy Thanksgiving!