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Are you living the life you want to live? If not, why not?

In mulling this over lately, I’ve realized inertia and lack of awareness are two of the biggest roadblocks to a meaningful, productive life.

It is easy to sit on the couch and lament our current state of affairs or to trudge down well-worn paths year after year, like a plow horse wearing blinders. To achieve any kind of success, we need to first get off the couch and start paying attention.

Well-known motivational speaker Anthony Robbins said, “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”

If you’re like me, you’ve heard this saying so many times it doesn’t register. So take a
minute to read it again. Now, read it once more. Let the truth of it poke into your bones far enough to make you uncomfortable, to make you squirm.

Be honest. What wall are you banging your head against? What issue are you hoping will resolve itself–with no input from you? What dream still seems impossibly far away?

Once you’ve answered those questions, courage has to step up and do battle. Knowledge without action is pretty much useless. That means change, and change is scary.

Given today’s economy, many of us have experienced the inertia/blindness affect when it comes to finances. Somehow, while we weren’t paying attention, the months got longer than the paycheck. So how do we reverse that? There are really only two options:  We either need more money coming in–or less money going out.

Option 3, which is ignoring the problem and hoping it will fix itself, has for us so far yielded nothing but frustration, tension and more gray hair than we need.

It’s time for action.

In your world, what needs to change? What’s keeping you from reaching your dreams? Be specific. Write it down.

How are you going to change it, exactly? Break it into small, measurable steps.

What’s the deadline? Set a completion date for each phase of the process and then find an accountability partner to make sure you don’t revert back to inertia. Complaining and lamenting is always easier than doing. But it doesn’t move us  forward.

My good friend and critique partner is holding my feet to the creative fire. Knowing I have to report my progress forces me to quit whining and start writing.

How about you? What changes are you making? How are you plowing through inertia?

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  1. Alana Lorens says:

    This is a good discussion to have with onesself, for sure. In my case, when I decided I wanted to write for a living, I applied for a part-time job that I’d had my eye on for awhile, and managed to snag it. This guaranteed a certain level of income–not what I was used to, but a good way toward it. Then I did the other work, cutting back expenses. We got both cars paid off, and really kept an eye on what we spent for new clothing, etc., going to Goodwill instead, especially for the kids. It’s a struggle, but it allows me to write about 25 hours a week, which has resulted in five contracts for books this year. Hopefully when that income starts coming in, I’ll be able to have a little extra!

    • Connie Mann says:

      Wow, Alana, I’m impressed, not only with the deliberate way you put the pieces in place–but with how it’s paying off. Five contracts this year! That’s wonderful! Celebrating with you…

  2. bethtrissel says:

    Something I’m certainly discussing at length with myself lately. I seem to be spending way too much time on promo and not enough on writing. The creative flow suffers. Goal setting is good. But difficult to keep. An income is definitely an incentive.

  3. Ilona Fridl says:

    In the last few months,I lost my mobility due to a tendon break in my foot. I’m now in a wheelchair. Fortunately, I can still write, but my promotion ability is shot. I’m learning to do it all over again. It’s frustrating, but I’ll find a way.

    • Connie Mann says:

      Hi Ilona, I’m so very sorry to hear about your foot! Here’s hoping it heals well and quickly and you’ll be out of that wheelchair ASAP! Way to go on keeping the writing going. That’s wonderful! As for promo, maybe no in-person stuff right now, but thankfully, there’s plenty you can do online!! Keep me posted on your progress!