The Hardest Part of Being Brave

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This being brave stuff is hard, no? It means taking risks, stepping out of our comfort zones. Sometimes it means taking a huge, terrifying leap of faith.

I’ve learned a little secret, though: often, the hardest part of being brave is simply showing up.

It means doing it anyway–despite the terror and the doubt gremlins and the overwhelming need to pull the covers over our heads and hide.

I had the chance to step out of my comfort zone and do something totally new and different a few weeks ago: I attended a Becoming an Outdoors Woman (BOW) weekend. I wasn’t just there to learn though; I had been asked to help teach a couple of classes. The assumption, of course, being that I had something worthwhile to contribute.

Just arriving at the camp felt a bit like the first day of middle school. You remember that feeling, right? “Will they like me? Will I have anybody to sit with at lunch? Will I make friends?”

As is often the case, once I got involved, I realized most of my fears were groundless. These were the most kind, gracious, welcoming bunch of ladies I’ve ever met. They came in all shapes and sizes, with makeup and without, wearing ball caps and camo gear—or not (I wore my girly sweatshirts); old, young, skilled, unskilled. They were all there with one purpose: to learn.

BOW director Lynne Hawke

BOW director Lynne Hawke

They were also incredibly encouraging. Most of the instructors are women, so there is a unique camaraderie amongst the participants not typically found in mixed groups.

Fabulous BOW instructors and staff

Fabulous BOW instructors and staff

I got to help with the Boating Basics and Bird Watching Basics classes.

Boating Basics class

Boating Basics class

early morning bird watching

Early morning bird watching

I also got to help with the Wilderness Survival Class. I now know how to build a fire and a shelter if I ever need to.

Shelter Building Basics

Shelter building basics

Building a fire

Building a fire

A completed shelter

A completed shelter

The scariest part, though, was giving a talk to all the ladies titled, Be Brave. The irony was not lost on my shaking hands and quaking knees. But I so wanted to encourage everyone who stepped out and showed up.

I came home refreshed, exhausted—and sporting my very first girl-camo shirt. I felt like I’d just discovered a whole new world and made some wonderful new friends.

Becoming an Outdoors Woman t-shirt

My official Becoming an Outdoors Woman t-shirt

What about you? Have you gone out on a limb lately? Been brave? Tried something new? Followed a dream? Taken that first terrifying step?

Would you do me a favor? Write down your story (300-400 words) and email it to me at connie [at] conniemann [dot] com. I’d love to compile some of your stories to share with others…

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Congrats to R.E. Mullins who won the copy of Lisa Carter’s new book, Beneath a Navajo Moon!

And if you want to discover some new-to-you suspense authors, be sure to stop back by on Monday, March 24. I’ll be part of a short blog hop and share some fun info on my current projects and introduce you to some fellow suspense authors, too.

Until next time…Be Brave.

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  1. Maddy says:

    Good for you. I usually find that women only events are always a great boost to my spirit. I recently went to a women’s only evening conference and their warmth and support was almost tangible and certainly put my two ER visits into perspective. Let’s all try and have a brave week.

  2. Katrina Epperson says:

    Connie, I think this is wonderful. Stepping outside our comfort zone can be refreshing. Congratulations on you “Be Brave” day. Love the pictures.

  3. Jamie Janosz says:

    Wow – you are like a pioneer woman! I’m pretty impressed :-). Sounds like you had a great time!

  4. Vicki Batman says:

    This looks so cool. How come we never seen those kinds of shelters on Survivor? I did get out of my comfort zone and attended the Fire and Police Citizen Academies. Loved it too.

  5. Debra Doggett says:

    Sounds like a really fun event. Thanks for the reminder that showing up is brave. I needed that.

  6. I agree with others. Sounds great–but so challenging!! Congratulations for going outside your comfort zone and succeeding.

  7. Jan Jackson says:

    This sounds so fun, Connie! Thanks for sharing. I can remember the first time I attended an official VCRW meeting. I’d been to a workshop and met a couple of people, but I wasn’t sure I’d fit in with the group. The topic of the first meeting I attended was “The Love Scene”, LOL! We were supposed to bring a scene to share, and I did. As we went around the table of the group I was in, I quickly realized I was one of only two people with a fully consummated love scene, the other being a Harlequin Desire author. I tried to disappear into my chair and thought about bailing, but I was brave. I let them read my scene and gained one of the best group of not only writers, but friends. Thanks for the reminder to be brave!

  8. Connie says:

    Jan–love that story! Glad you didn’t disappear into your chair and have been writing ever since!! And you’re still being brave, every day, submitting stories and writing some more. Thanks for the encouragement and the example your tenacity shows!

  9. Lorna Dishman says:

    Connie I commend you on stepping out of your comfort zone. I’m glad you had a great experience. You give others the courage to try the same. Thank you.