Take the long view

Take the long view…

Woulda. Shoulda. Coulda. These three little words can make us crazy if we let them, can’t they? We get to the end of a day, or a season, or a school year and all we see are the things we didn’t do. Without conscious thought, we turn the clarity of hindsight into a big, fat club and beat ourselves up with it.

Let’s not do that.

Here’s the reality: none of us can do everything we want to do, all at once. Though believe me, I’ve tried. There simply aren’t enough hours in the day. We want to spend quality time with each and every one of our children, regularly. We want date nights and meaningful conversation with our men, a house worthy of a magazine layout, a perfect body—without Photoshop.

We want to make progress towards our dreams.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of those things—except our own unrealistic expectations. We look around and buy into the lie that we can have it all, and do it all, right now. Today. Every day.

Nobody can. Because the Infinite Creator gave us a set number of hours in every day. No more, no less. When we try to steal more time by robbing our bodies of sleep, we pay for it later.

And when we focus on the things we didn’t do—rather than those we did–we lose our joy in the moment, in the simple beauty of being.

It’s time to get off the crazy wheel, time to reject the lie. We make ourselves—and those we love—nuts when we try too hard to do it all.

It’s time to make peace with things undone.

I once heard author Lori Wick say she didn’t want her children’s memory of their mother to be the back of her head, hunched over a computer. That piece of wisdom stayed with me while my children were young. Yes, I wanted to write, and I did, but that wasn’t the only thing I did.

If you’re feeling the pressure of woulda- shoulda-coulda today, let me encourage you to take a minute and picture yourself ten years from now. What things will you wish you’d spent more time on? What things really won’t matter? Use those answers to make decisions today.

Let’s make peace with things undone.

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Ecclesiastes 3:1